Stress is a part of day to day living. As college students
you may experience stress
management meeting academic demands, adjusting
to a new living environment, or developing friendships. Managing
stress is not necessarily harmful. Mild forms of stress management
can act as a motivator and energizer. However, if your stress
level is too high, medical and social problems can result.
Although we tend to think of stress as caused by external
events, events in themselves are not stressful. Rather, it
is the way in which we interpret and react to events that
makes them stressful. People differ dramatically in the type
of events they interpret as stressful and the way in which
they respond to such stress. For example, speaking in public
can be stressful for some people and relaxing for others.
Have you ever said the words, "This job/my life is
so stressful!" Or something else along those lines?
Most people believe that stress is something that happens
in their lives.See Life
Management Stress. They believe it is the result
of outside circumstances beyond their control. We are stressed
if our work is too difficult. We get stressed when people
in our lives aren't doing what we want them to do. We are
stressed when it's been too long since a vacation. We get
stress over deaths, weddings, major purchases and a host of
other things. We talk as if stress management is something
outside ourselves---a condition of things in our external
environment. It's not.
Health professionals will tell us that managing stress is
a contributing factor in many physical ailments---heart attacks,
asthma, high blood pressure, stroke and many others. There
are several diagnoses in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual
IV, the diagnostic tool of therapists and psychiatrists that
describe many stress-related disorders. Stress
management is a killer. Have you ever wondered
why some people seem to handle managing stress better than
We are choosing managing stress as a proactive attempt to
get something we want. This choice is almost never conscious,
but I want it to become conscious for you. Once it is conscious,
then you have the power to choose to do it differently if
you so desire.
So managing stress is nothing but stress management.Stress
management helps to understand what possible benefits
or purposes one could achieve by stressing.
Benifits of stress management.
I say stressing can be motivating. Many of us perform
at our peak level when we have that adrenalin rush moving
through our veins. Anyone who has ever waited until the last
minute to study for a test or complete a project knows what
I'm talking about here.
Stressing can also be a way of telling others they better
back off. I know when I felt stress, it was my unconscious
goal to let my boss know she had better not ask me to do one
more thing or I just might lose it! I would send out signals
of overwhelm---lots of sighing, threatening looks, irritability,
loss of humor. I have to admit that since I didn't do it very
often, it was quite effective. Whenever I was stressed, my
boss generally left me alone to do my work.
Stressing can also get us the help we need. When the
message is out there, others may rally around us to support
us. People may actually offer to do some things for us so
we can reduce the overwhelm.
Another possible benefit is that stressing can provide
us with recognition. I don't know how he/she gets all
that done. It's amazing!" There are some who appreciate
this positive recognition.
One final thought on stressing benefits. . . When
we stress long enough, we may develop physical symptoms. When
we don't take care of managing our stress levels, our physiology
takes over and creates physical symptoms for us. Do you understand
the purpose of the physical symptoms that accompany prolonged
stress? Of course, it is our body's way of telling us we have
to stop or slow down. It produces the physical symptoms that
are hard to ignore. When we attend to them, we get the rest
we need and therefore reduce the stress. Can you see how all
behavior is purposeful?
If you are experiencing the
effects of stress in your
life, I am not suggesting that you are to blame. What I am
saying is that up until this point, you have been doing absolutely
the best you know how, consciously or unconsciously to get
something you want by stressing. If you can pinpoint what
the benefit(s) of stress is/are to you, then you can look
at ways to get what you need without having to stress
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